The topic of polyamory and children can be extraordinarily nuanced. There are significant differences between children growing up in a household that has been polyamorous for their entire lives and children living in homes where their parents’ relationship structure shifted from monogamy to polyamory during their lifetime. There are questions of when to introduce partners to children and how to navigate the attachment that ensues. There are also questions around custody being impacted by one parent’s choice of non-monogamy. There are as many kids who are nonplussed upon learning of their parents’ less traditional relationship structure, as there are kids who insist on knowing no details at all. The decision about whether to tell children, what to tell them and when is something that can take years to unfold. Sarah has had extensive experience navigating this process and brings the wisdom of her own family’s experience to the topic.